Tuesday, February 28, 2017

A mother's dillema ...

A mother's dillema ...

I loved the joy god bestowed on me .I was awed by his grace that a little bundle of joy who loved me to the core was here.

I was a mommy to a cute adorable little darling. He and i were the world to each other.
I left my job as i was advised by the doctor to either conceive or  forget the baby ever in my life. So the mom in me overpowered the  professional in me and here i was a 24/7 mum ma..Time lapsed and now my little fellow was growing and was able to do his daily humdrum's by himself .
The working mother in me was missing herself somewhere...at times she tried to emerge but was thrown back deeper inside by the thought of leaving the little one alone with no one to care of.

I had my extended family   to take care of but it was as good as no help.
Time passed and it was 4 years that passed away and then i started craving for my space my time my friends  as the little fellow had started schooling and had friends to go and play with.

The adorable darling that i have supported his mother to go all out and start living her life again.
But how..

I tried and tried and all vain..people looked at my resume selected it  but all boiled down to how would you work after a 4 years gap..
how would you be able to survive in a job market now??
I was amazed at one point these people talk about woman at workplace ...freedom for woman,
back to work for woman initiative by TATA group ..and then when realty comes it goes into drain.
Yes i faced some interviews some rejected outright by mere asking when was the last you were working???
My question to them is do you ever forget driving or eating or riding a bicycle if you have not done so for a few years..???
where does all that high thinking and  self evaluating talks go now where does the policy of HR  go
when reality strikes???

It mere boils down to the gap in work and to top it all they are ready to reduce your  last paycheck even.. Its sickening to even believe.

Well its not my rant or a sympathy gaining post but its my believe there might be many mums who would want to join back  to work but all these conditions and  the unwillingness of the companies management push them back .

We want a chance to join back to work and i strongly believe that there are some who would agree that one chance is not too much to ask for.

Friday, May 20, 2016

Summer Coolers Kiddos would love..

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Strawberry oats lollies

Your kids would love these little healthy lollies in summer. Oats generally hated by kids would make their way happily in our little monsters tummy.
Take one sachet of strawberry oats (quaker oats preferred) .
Boil in one and a half cup of milk.
Add 2 tea spoons of mixed fruit jam to this mix and let the milk simmer for 1 more minute .
Now swirl it in your  mixer grinder for just one minute
Let it have a smooth consistency 
Add pistachios ,almond,raisin to it after cooling the mixture.
Freeze this mixture by putting it in interesting moulds of lollies or different shape your kids love.

They would love you for this mumma..

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Water melon n cucumber Slush

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2 bowls water melon
1 peeled cucumber
2-3 mint leaves
1 lemon
Image result for watermelon slush recipe2 teaspoon sugar(can be avoided) - Alternatively add black pepper n   half tea spoon black salt

Blend  Blend Blend the cucumber ,water melon  mint leaf mixture to shoo away the scorching sun.

Now strain the refreshing drink and add few drops of lime juice( 1 tea spoon).
Now with the help of a muddler   muddle some ice at the bottom of the glass add some crushed watermelon and mint .
Pour this drink on the ice slush and enjoy the freshness..

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Tuesday, June 03, 2014

Are we really modern or is it just the mask ??

This question keeps coming back to me in various means and forms.Daily you can see one news about a women being raped or tortured or looked down upon..Are we really modern in our thinking , our approach Where are we heading towards ?India a developing nation with women embarrassments and crimes  peaking .
I was shocked to see the news paper today -a women raped and then forced to drink acid so that she dies a pathetic death and all women of that area gets to learn a lesson from this.
What barbaric act full of shame.Are women just for material pleasure? 
They raise your kids they look after you, leave their family for you, they are your sisters, your friends your wife and your mother how can men be  so inhuman towards women.
This is one of an instance where the people were uneducated but what about the educated highly qualified male are they different breed?

Here i am not generalizing but i fail to understand why educated men behave so rudely with their counterparts? They want qualified beautiful girl as their wife, then how can u physically abuse them?
I feel it wrong on the part of females who keep quiet and accept the torture thinking about the family. When your husband  did not even thinks once before harming you mentally or physically then why should a female carry the burden of what society thinks?
according to a survey educated females are the ones who do not say anything cause of the fear of society.

What kind of modern are we that we kill little soul in the womb cause we want to raise son.Whom would your son marry if every other women gives birth to a boy child.
I am sometimes so happy to see families in village accepting  girl child.
But when we look at the data of urban india or the india shining majority of female foeticide  are reported there. 
Gurgaon , delhi ,chandigarh have major female foeticide.
What do you think are we living in

a society of masked modernity?

Friday, May 30, 2014

Parenting -Learning and unlearning

Parenting a world within this small strong word. The new me is far far away from the pre parenting life. My little R is the best gift i could have asked from god.
I was so happy to have received this little naughty miracle in my life but was unaware of the responsibility tagged .
I read on few sites and few advice from my friends and i was ready to take the plunge.But little that i know there was anew world awaiting for me with cute eyes and a smile to die for.
Every day was a challenge and new things which i would have never thought of..

Sleepless nights pees and poos were my routines.The little time i got i used to rush for sleep was a everyday task for the first two month. Momma was getting to know her baby.

As the saying goes you realize what your parents have gone through once you become a parent.

Can never imagine the kind of strength a mother draws when she sees her child in difficulty.I was just out of the Operation theater and a hour later doc sent my little R for feeding .Don't know how i managed to feed him where did all the pain went ?Here i was happily feeding my son .That day a mother was born.

A mother who was naive who had no idea about how to even hold her new born.

A mother who had to learn everything from nappy wrapping to  pee timing to sleeping pattern to feeding worries to praying god  so that baby takes a good sleep.

A mother who did not even know how to tie a diaper..ya i still remember my first time with the  diaper was so confused as to how the hell this would work.Now a pro though.

The feeling of contentment when you see the baby happy n cheerful.
There were days of anxiety as to how would i manage all things am i on the right track,am i doing the right things have i given the right food.The days when i used to wait for him to say his first babble his first words his laughter.

Never understood though the relation between the timing of baby's poo and mothers eating schedule .
It happens with me even now at times when my R is a year old, the moment i sit to grab my lunch i hear a cry calling for help to clean the Poo or the Pee.

At times i used to long for a good 2 hour sleep and  my wish was granted which was once in few months.
Donot really know how a year has gone by and a naive mother who is still not a pro is learning and unlearning many things..